Parent Thought: When should I allow my children to get a social media account?

Photo Credit: Unknown Something my parents didn't have to wrestle with was figuring out when to let me or my sister get a social media account.

When is it a good time to allow your kids on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, Snapchat, Tumblr, and other social media apps? Hopefully, if your a parent or want to be one day, you are wrestling with this question!

It is more than just a philosophical or family values question—it's a matter of the law.

Adam McLane, who is an expert and leader when it comes to parental awareness, involvement, and social media, wrote a very informative article on this question: When should I allow my children to get a social media account? Speaking to dozens of parent groups in his social media workshops, he answers that question very plainly,

"Without fail, a parent will ask me… “What is the right age to allow my child to get [insert social media app name]?”"

The answer is simple: Thirteen.

Hold On...

Before you start having a hissy fit and get defensive because you already let your twelve year old on Facebook, and before you form any opinions in regards to his answer—I strongly recommend you read his article.

You can find it here: When should I allow my children to get a social media account?

If you are wondering what my answer would be to this questions... My answer would be the same as Adam's.

I was a youth pastor for seventeen years and I'm a parent of a 21year old, 18 year old and a 16 year old, and have seen the positive and negative of social media and young people. I would even go further and tell you that there are some social media apps you shouldn't let your kids have access to... And there are some social media apps I don't have and I'm an adult... But that is a post for another day.


What are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree with Adam McLane?

#BringBackOurGirls: Keep Hope Alive For The Missing Girls In Nigeria

#BringBackOurGirls: Keep Hope Alive For The Missing Girls In Nigeria

I am normally reserved when it comes to social justice issues—not that I don't believe in activism, it's just I usually go about my involvement quietly or in less discreet ways. However, something has caught my attention that I can't seem to shake.

Many of you are aware of events that took place in Nigeria back in mid-April, where over 276 young girls, between the ages of 15 to 18 years old, both Christian and Muslim alike, were kidnapped by extremists simply because these girls were getting an education.

If you want to read more in depth details about this incident, New York Times columnist, Nicolas Kristof, wrote an article on this atrocity here: 'Bring Back Our Girls'

Today the Nigerian government has asked for help from the United States government. Relevant has an article on this developing story: "Nigerian President Asks U.S. to Help Find Kidnapped Girls."


But what can we do to help advocate for these girls?

Should we keep silent and assume world governments will be on top of this? My answer is no—we need to be a voice for the voiceless, and keep hope alive for these young women! You are not helpless. You can make a difference.


Social media entrepreneur and social justice activist/advocate, Shaun King, recently started tweeting the names of the missing girls on his Twitter account. As Shaun has indicated in the tweet above, we need to fight for their rescue and advocate for them.

You can follow along with Shaun King's tweets here: @ShaunKing.

As a dad of two girls, I can only imagine what fathers in Nigeria are going through... As a dad of two daughters, I am outraged and sickened by this evil!

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Somethings you can do to help...

I want to encourage all my readers to take timeout of your busy schedules and read through Shaun's tweets and pray for the missing girls and remember their names. Pray for them and their families. Pray for their kidnappers, that they will release them.

If you're on Twitter, follow Shaun King (@ShaunKing) and retweet the names of the girls he is tweeting. Write your congress person and tell them you want them to get involved, and the list could go on and on...

#BringBackOurGirls: Keep Hope Alive For The Missing Girls In Nigeria

Are we doing things backwards in the church?

Photo Credit: Pixabay I just saw an advertisement on Twitter that struck me kind of funny. This advertisement was a promoted tweet, where a Christian resource company—they sell curriculum, books, and other stuff was having a huge sale on all their stuff...

"How generous of them" was my initial thought. Then I said to myself, we (the church) don't have a lot of money so I won't even look and see what they have... Then I remembered that for the last six and a half years I have been on staff in some large churches, and now at a small church where the cash-flow was or is not flowing. We really were not able to buy curriculum and other stuff that we deemed necessary to run effective ministry/programs—we wanted to spend what little dollars we had directly on people, meeting their tangible needs or just pay the bills.

We learned to do ministry with almost a zero dollar budget or on a shoestring. It's funny, because during this time, Lars Rood wrote a book entitled "Youth Ministry On A Shoestring: How to do more with less, but we couldn't afford to buy his book...Haha.

We experienced frustrating and difficult times, but we also saw the generosity of the church engage in ground level ministry—when we needed doughnuts, people brought doughnuts or alternatives, instead of the paid staff buying them with ministry budget dollars. And the examples could go on and on... People became more invested in the ministry and the mission of the church, instead of being just consumers.

We also saw creativity expressed in ways we hadn't seen before. We couldn't buy curriculum, so we were forced to write our own. Paid and non-paid people all contributed to the edification of the body.

People stepped up—they worked and lived through the gifts of the Holy Spirit. People grew and matured in ways that money can't buy or fabricate.

Not having a lot of money can actually be a good thing. It causes us to really dig deep down and find out what really matters, especially when it comes to the church. Having a ton of kick-butt programs with all the bells and whistles that go with them, and having paid ministry specialists for every ministry program can be necessary to some degree. But when all of this get's in the way of the church being the church—it should cause us to pause and reflect on what really matters to mission of Jesus.

I am not against Christian resource companies and I am sure I will buy some stuff from them, once I have some cash flow to do so—it's just that I am beginning to wonder, out-loud, if you will allow me to do so—what would discipleship look like if we didn't have all these resources at our fingertips...

Are we doing things backwards in the church?