44 Things I Know—Now That I Am Forty Four Years Old


Who am I to give advice at the young age of forty four? I know some of you are thinking to yourself, "There is NO way I'd listen to any advice from this guy!" And you might be wise in thinking this. So the things I have listed here aren't so much pearls of wisdom, but observations and common sense that I've gathered in my short sojourn here on earth.

I think Hunter S. Thompson said it best about giving someone advice,

“To give advice to a man who asks what to do with his life implies something very close to egomania. To presume to point a man to the right and ultimate goal — to point with a trembling finger in the RIGHT direction is something only a fool would take upon himself.“ —Hunter S. Thompson

So Here You Go. Take It For What It's Worth.

1. Change is a constant in life. If you are not changing then you are not growing—change is a good thing.

2. Real and deep friendships can be hard to come by, but when you find them it is a beautiful thing to have.

3. Working is a good thing, but working in what you are passionate about is the best thing.

4. Money isn't everything. It is helpful, but it isn't everything

5. Some people you know will never ask the big questions of life.

6. The key to a happy marriage is putting your spouse's needs before your own.

7. Being a parent of kids in their twenties is way better than being a parent of toddlers and teens.

8. Accomplishing your goals won't necessarily make you happy or fulfilled.

9. The "positive thinking" movement is full of shit. It's okay to have negative emotions—just don't let them take over your mind and heart.

10. Some people deeply know God but would never say it that way.

I am the one with the yellow tank top, blue shorts, tub socks, and shaggy hair.

I am the one with the yellow tank top, blue shorts, tub socks, and shaggy hair.

11. Embrace who you are—even the worts, bumps, and bruises.

12. When you don’t know what else to do, tell a story or a joke. If that doesn’t work, be silent.

13. You'll realize some of the things you believed ten years ago were wrong—accept it and move on.

14. Fall is the best time of year hands down.

15. God just wants you to believe in Jesus and love others. Nothing else is expected of you. That's what it means to be a Christian.

16. Jesus is misrepresented about 90% of the time both inside and outside of the church.

17. If both your religious and irreligious friends think you are crazy, congratulations.

18. Don't spend life striving for perfection—perfection is allusive and not real anyways. Just try your best and not worry about perfection.

19. The most freeing thing I've ever heard—love people not because you want them to be a Christian, but because you are a Christian.

20. It's ok not having all the answers about God—He never said you had to have Him all figured out.

21. Real success is being able to say no to some things and saying yes to the things that really matter—even if others don't think those things you said yes to are successful.

22. It's okay to waste money, but you don't want to waste time—you can never get back the time you've wasted.

23. If you have a dream or an idea—it is worth pursuing.

24. Choose kindness and love above all else.

25. Don't wait to have something like a heart attack to motivate you to live life.


26. People will hurt you, because they are people. No one is perfect not even you.

27. If you are a creative and don’t create, you will always feel like something is missing.

28. History is not boring. Some historians are. Know the difference.

29. Sometimes good ideas and organizations need to die. Let them. That's how things get better.

30. If someone you know loses someone they love—just go sit with them you don't need to say anything.

31. It's okay to be alone. It's in those alone times you get to hear your true inner voice.

32. If you feel like starting a business, do it. You won't be sorry even if it fails.

33. Long walks are better than running.

34. Make sure you tell people you love them before it is too late.

35. Sometimes a pen and paper is still the best option. We all need to write more letters and notes to each other.

36. Failure is the secret to success.

37. Find an author way smarter than you and read everything they have ever written.

38. Pick three books you'd have with you if you were on a deserted island and re-read them every year.

39. People will surprise you. Just roll with it.


40. Helping others even if it doesn't make you feel good is truly helping others.

41. Love is the greatest force in the universe and empathy is it's friend.

42. Not everything worth doing is easy—and not everything worth doing is hard.

43. Not everything people do or say to you is personal. So get over yourself.

44. It's never too late to make big changes. I've done it three times—when I was 28, 35, and 44. And I am still kicking.

Oh. And here is a freebie. If you survive three heart attacks you can pretty much do and say what you want.